Thursday, November 17, 2011

Family in Cape Town

I must admit that sometimes I get more excited that my family is here in Cape Town, than the wedding itself.
I think this is perfectly normal, because I was brought up in a very close family.
I also don't see anything wrong with it, because for me, my family is the most important. And the best thing is I don't have to hide this fact from Ian (which people will tell me "Better don't let Ian hear that!"). He knows me and perfectly understands why. And that is why I am marrying him.

Last Sunday, Mummy, Daddy, Ahyee and Yiu-Shern braved through the 15 hours flight from Penang to KL, KL to Cape Town. Both me and Ian were so excited! We made sure we got there earlier, just in case their flight got here early. Call me emotional or sensitive, but I think it is really very disappointing and irresponsible if they come out and their daughter is not there yet!
It was rainy hard that day. We haven't had that much rain for the last few months! I prayed silently that they followed my advice in emails to bring extra jacket.
When we got to the airport, their flight has been delayed ! Luckily, only for 15 mins la.

I don't know why but my heart was pounding fast when I saw the red  "Delayed" to green "Landed" . This is it!

The best part is that we were able to see their plane from the arrival waiting area. Not from far away, but very near. Maybe 20m away from the glass. We can also see them coming out from the corridor, and because the corridor is tinted, we can only make out who they are from the shape. But we managed to spot the 4 of them! (picture still in my camera). I let Ian take photos with the camera while I take photos using my phone.

I then reminded Ian to take photos of them when they come out, especially Shern, because I know Shu-Yin surely will want to know every single detail about Shern. lol. Thats why.. a lot of photos I took with my phone on that day is of Yiu-Shern, so that I can report so Shu-Yin to show her he is doing well..

 I was getting worried if they were stopped by customs, especially with Mum bringing so much spices and even a steamboat pot for me! Hehe... They finally came out - they were the last to come out! 4 people with more than 100kg of luggages . And that's only checked-in luggages. They still have hand-carry bags and a stroller.

I always find it amazing how Shern just accepted me and Ian as Wen YeeYee and Uncle Ian... without seeing me as an outsider, as if he has known us forever and we have always lived with him in the same house. This time again, that's exactly what happened.

Family is always family. We can not see each other for months. But once we see each other, we are so comfortable as if we have never been away from each other. Shern as well as doing well and is at home immediately.

Hello it's me!
Meeting his first friend in the house

Making African music with Uncle Ian

Watching cartoons and mimicking them talking

Want prawn prawn only!

I know I am going to be a happy person for this whole month :-)

Monday, November 7, 2011

Engagement Shoot - First Try

Marrying in Malaysia compared to South Africa has a very different practice.For Chinese living in Malaysia, the cronology of events for a marriage to take place is as follows:

Comparison #1 : Cronology of Events for Wedding

  1. Proposal
  2. Registration of Marriage aka ROM
  3. Wedding Shoot
  4. Customary Events + Wedding Ceremony
As a Chinese in Malaysia, the wedding day / wedding ceremony is actually a day of culture practice. The wedding ceremony only happens after the couple is legally married (during the ROM).

 South Africa:
  1. Proposal
  2. Engagement Shoot
  3. Registration of Marriage + Wedding Ceremony + Couple Shoot
    To me it makes more sense that the registration of marriage is on the day of wedding ceremony itself. If not you always find yourself in the position of "Oh, I'm legally married but we dont have our wedding ceremony yet!"

    Comparison #2 : Wedding photos
    Malaysia :
    In Malaysia the couple photos are done before the wedding day, due to the fact that on the wedding day itself there are too many things happening! All the traditions and customary events on the same day eg. fetching of the bride, tea ceremony, going to the temple, etc leaves no more time for the couple to have their photos taken as well.
    Therefore, they are normally taken a few months before the wedding ceremony. Usually the bride will hire a few change of customes and have their photos taken in a few different venues. It is great that you then get to bring back a portfolio of photos in different customes in different venue and setting.

    South Africa:
    In South Africa, the couple shoot as they call it here, happens on the day itself. The photos are taken normally after the ceremony and before the wedding dinner.The downside of it is you get to usually only take photos in your wedding dress, or another change if you have the time to squeeze it in. The better side of things is that you only do these on the day itself, on your wedding day, in your wedding dress. *romantic*
    They do have another thing to cater for pre-wedding photos though. They call it Engagement Shoot aka E-Sessions. These are photos of the couple before the wedding day, normally in casual clothings, showing their love for each other.
    See this and this.

    As a Malaysian Chinese marrying a South African in South Africa (confused yet?),
    We decided to go this:
    1. Proposal
    2. Engagement Shoot (Pre-wedding shoot)
    3. Wedding Ceremony + Registration of marriage + Customary Event (in our case, Tea Ceremony) + Couple Shoot

    Now that my braces are officially off (yes, and that's another post by itself!), we have to quickly get our Engagement Shoot done. Our calendar was blocked for the 30th October 2011. The first thing that comes to my mind , of course, is what to wear.

    Something that looks relaxed and casual but will not look like an aunty.
    Some makeup that will make me look groomed but still look natural.

    Ahh... the headache.

    Besides that, I must also think of what Ian will be wearing so that our colours do not clash.

    Finally the day has arrived.
    Early in the morning, I was greeted by a large noise......from the toilet.
    Ian "informed" me he has a runny tummy the whole night. It was from the Curry Rooti we got from his mum's church bazaar the day before.
    I know, I know. Food poisoning is not the best thing to happen on a day we are supposed to skip happily down the beach, looking casual and in love.

    When we got to Sea Point, our photographer is still not around. Ian decided to visit the toilet again (hoping to empty whatever's left in the bowel). When our photographer arrived after 10 minutes later, Ian just came out from the toilet. His face was still screwed with pain and I reminded him to try to smile for the photos and don't look too constipated *lol*.
    One step, two steps, and a quick sorry, Ian rushed back to the toilet.
    The last rush to the toilet seems to be the worst one, he didn't emerge till probably 20-30 minutes later.

    Luckily the sky responded. It then started to rain, and pour.
    *Rain is a blessing indeed*
    We were actually glad that the photography session has to be cancelled, and we spend the rest of the day in front of the fire watching TV, where Ian can be near his toilet :-)

    Date set for our next Engagement Shoot : 12th Nov 2011.
    I'll make sure we have normal food the before.